Welcome to the first installment of The Bride & The Broom, a blog for the fellas on how to prepare, react and survive planning a wedding. My hope is to guide you through the process of planning a wedding with tips and advice on when NOT to get involved and when it's appropriate to intervene or....give your opinion (gasp!).
Although I'm going to be speaking to the men, this blog should help you brides-to-be get a glimpse into your future husband's thought process. My goal is to help during those stressful, exhausting moments when you're planning a wedding and thinking to yourself: "We should have just freakin' eloped!" 'Cause guess what? That is going to happen... more than once. And, of course, to hopefully shed some humor on what has become a stressful ritual.
Before I start laying some knowledge, you're probably all wondering about the name "The Bride & The Broom"...must be an inside joke:
Although I'm going to be speaking to the men, this blog should help you brides-to-be get a glimpse into your future husband's thought process. My goal is to help during those stressful, exhausting moments when you're planning a wedding and thinking to yourself: "We should have just freakin' eloped!" 'Cause guess what? That is going to happen... more than once. And, of course, to hopefully shed some humor on what has become a stressful ritual.
Before I start laying some knowledge, you're probably all wondering about the name "The Bride & The Broom"...must be an inside joke:
(Oh, get ready for lots of GIFs and videos throughout these posts).
Well, the adorable, little scamp in this picture is me at age 3 or 4. My mother used to bring me to these fashion show events for old women in a garden club. My bride in the picture is Emily, a family friend of ours. During this particular event, we walked out on stage and all the elderly women thought we were adorable. Because I mean c'mon, we were. They asked Emily who she was supposed to be, and she said "I'm the bride." They all awed with delight. Then asked me who I was supposed to be. To which I proclaimed: "I'm the broom!" That's where I gained my comedic timing. Also, my vocabulary and misunderstanding of words hasn't improved much in 20+ years so bear with me.
Weddings... we've all been to a wedding we wish we could go back to because it was a blast. And we've all been to a wedding we regret RSVP'ing to. Good weddings or bad weddings--they both take a lot of time, energy and stress to make them happen. My goal is to help you navigate through the mine fields your fiance lay out for you.
Let's face it, boys. You want a nice wedding, but you really could care less what the color scheme will be, the flower selection, etc. But guess what? Your fiance cares...and she wants YOU to care. Now I'm not saying you have to be involved in everything, but here are some quick bullet point pieces of advice to intro you into staying sane.
Weddings... we've all been to a wedding we wish we could go back to because it was a blast. And we've all been to a wedding we regret RSVP'ing to. Good weddings or bad weddings--they both take a lot of time, energy and stress to make them happen. My goal is to help you navigate through the mine fields your fiance lay out for you.
Let's face it, boys. You want a nice wedding, but you really could care less what the color scheme will be, the flower selection, etc. But guess what? Your fiance cares...and she wants YOU to care. Now I'm not saying you have to be involved in everything, but here are some quick bullet point pieces of advice to intro you into staying sane.
- COMMUNICATE! Communication is going to be key during your marriage, so it's good practice to start now as you plan your wedding. Have a conversation with your lady about budgets, expectations, and be honest about what you want to be involved in and what you'd rather sit on the sidelines for. She might not agree with everything, but she'll appreciate you being open and forthcoming about your expectations.
- Learn now that your game plan going into a wedding WILL change. If you or your fiance are meticulous planners, just know that s*#t will hit the fan at multiple times during your wedding planning. Nothing works out according to plan, so prepare to be a little laid back when obstacles come up.
- Don't listen to anyone else! You're going to have family and friends telling you where you should get married, how many people you should invite, what time of year you should schedule your wedding... your friends and family are morons! They are....mine are, it's just a fact. DISCLAIMER: To all my family members and friends reading this, I'm kidding... kinda. Family and friends mean well, but learn now that you can't please everyone. This is YOUR wedding so politely tell them to:
- And finally, for now: Don't sweat the small stuff. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Planning a wedding will get stressful and frustrating. Remember that it's one day! People get so hung up about making the wedding day perfect that they forget what it's all about. I have it in my bio, and I'll say it again: Wedding's are one day; marriage is a lifetime. But if you can make your wedding memorable without breaking the bank, that works, too!
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